Monday, April 13, 2009

Am I in LOVE? (Questions of the heart)

Do you feel your brains turn to mush..
as soon as cupids arrow spears your heart?

  • Did your heart ever become your goal?

  • Did he become your world?

  • Do you feel the need to control him?

  • Do you want to be his everything?

  • Did you ever change your entire world to be with him?

  • Did he, for you?

  • Do you want his eyes to be only on you?

  • Do you feel like you can never say anything right?

  • Do you try to share your thoughts with him, only to alienate him?

  • Do you tear your hair out every time he looks at you like you are an alien?

  • Do you wish today was as sweet as the first day that you laid your eyes on him?

  • Do you wish you had never heard any stories about his past?

  • Do you wish he never heard yours?

  • Do you expect him to read your mind?

  • Do you think you can read his mind?

  • Do you worry about things that he cannot even comprehend?

  • Do you imagine his answers, when he gives you none?

  • Do you constantly question his feelings for you?

  • Do you question his every decision?

  • Do you feel like a wallflower?

  • Do you wish he would not interpret your needs for weakness?

  • Did you grow up believing love would be safe and non confronting?

  • Do you like the feeling of mistrust?

  • Does he?

  • Do you feel that you are the only one in this relationship?

  • Did you ever think that you would feel so torn apart when you argued with someone?

  • Did you think that you could be so hateful with someone you love so much?

  • Did you ever look at someone and feel a total, unconditional love for them?

  • Did you think that he too would feel incompetent during sex?

  • Do you know that he too suffers when you look upon him with disappointment?

  • Does he try to reach out to you in his time of need for affection and understanding?

  • Do you turn away from him, hoping that he will turn to you?

  • Do you feel like hiding from his eyes when you feel threatened by another female?

  • Does he understand you at that time?

  • Does he support you when you feel weak and failing?

  • Do you support him?

  • Do you allow him inside your head when all you want to do is die?

  • Do you come home and ask him how his day was?

  • Do you reach for him in the quiet of the night?

  • Does he reach out for you?

  • Does he make you feel sexy with just one look?

  • Do you crave his touch?

  • Does he kiss you passionately?

  • Do you kiss him back?

  • Do you love him with all your heart and soul?

  • Would you die for him?

  • Would he die for you?
I know that I have definitely reached each one of you reading, with at least one of these thought provoking questions. Did you ever think such a small sweet word like LOVE could be so full of emotions and feelings? Love has so many meanings:

  • Love means trust, even when all the cards are against you.

  • Love means understand at all costs.

  • Love means accept all without question.

  • Love means allowing a stranger into your heart.

  • Love means smiling when anyone else would frown.

  • Love means hugging when he cries.

  • Love means being silent when silence is needed.

  • Love means putting his feelings first.

  • Love means being fair.

  • Love means expecting fairness.

  • Love means commitment.

  • Love means fitting together.

  • Love means laughter.

  • Love means partnership.

  • Love means being independent.

  • Love means forgiveness.

  • Love means patience.

  • Love means pain.

  • Love means sacrifice.

  • Love means supporting.

  • Love means feeling complete.

  • Love means never going to bed mad.

  • Love means GIFT.
If you have the gift of love, cherish it, nurture it, and treat it with respect.
Never push it away, or hurt it. Never, ever abuse it, or treat it like a door mat. Embrace it.
To have the gift of love is truly an inner beauty feeling. People say they love, but truly they have no clue what love is. Love can be just as painful as it can be beautiful. It can turn on you in a heartbeat. It can become your worst enemy. It can twist your world and turn it upside down, leaving you feeling alone and empty. Love is a very powerful gift. It is when one finds true love that all of the feelings, good and bad come together. That is when they are organized and compromised to make two people into one. It is when we are one that we join forces against the world and battle together. Sometimes it feels easier to go it alone, but it is the word, "alone" that really scares me. I would rather risk it all with someone, then to be alone. To say yes to the questions above tells you that you have risked it and are in love!

"I believe that we are here for each other, not against each other. Everything comes from an understanding that you are a gift in my life - whoever you are, whatever our differences."
- John Denver


Ish said...

Very interesting post about love, I Love it!

lorna said...

What a fascinating and interesting perspective on love! I liked your use of questions and answers to create interest...

Thanks for sharing your love with the world!


Garret said...

I love that and will be "stealing" it next week've been warned lol.

Garret :)

askcherlock said...

You always give such deep insights and have a very honest perception which encourages your readers to ponder these thoughts. I never leave your blogs without feeling that and appreciating it.

My brother used to say that love is an action verb. I believe that. Words are wonderful to hear, but need need to back them up and to have them backed up by action, even quiet action.

""rarejonRez"" said...

oh.... what a beautiful writeup! It amazed me tat you have put so much truth and reality about what love is. i am sure everyone who gets to read this had realized what love's role is. thank you for such a very interesting post!

i love. and i keep loving, even if i lost sometimes! :) love is the greatest gift i got-- from God most of all and from my fellow human beings! :)

picas said...

Love is great thing given by The God..You have a very great perspective Dorothy..

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Sera Melinda said...

Oh my, your post about LOVE is so touching. I really enjoy reading it.
Yeah, love.... everybody needs love, the world needs love (not war). There're also two sides to every love story, like you've written, love can be painful - love can also cheer you up.
One thing for sure, I love LOVE! said...

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Jazebel said...

Love is ~~ when your mum questioned you before wedding night, "Are you sure you want to marry him? He has such bad temper!" And you went ahead and married the person anyway!

Fast forward 12 years from the conversation, you find that you're still suffering from his bad temper ~~ love is blind but somehow we have to wake up from our nightmares.

Trixie M. said...

Great post my sweet friend. I love it! For me the true love is giving love to someone without expecting in return.One thing about love, Love is not blind it can see but it don't mind.

anney said...

Such a great and Inspirig posty! Thanks for sharing!

Kikit said...

I was once in love. :)

LIZZIE said...

Dorothy, this is a very interesting read. I have to say, there are quite a few of those questions that I've asked myself before. Sometimes with confident, sometimes with humility. *Sigh* Matters of the heart is a very sensitive thing..

This is really good.. And if you don't mind, *ahem ahem*.. Can I post this at my blog one of this days too? Hehehehe... *^_~*

Bob Johnson said...

Beautiful post, makes a guy think.

Grace said...

Your post is great, Dorothy. I agree, there is a lot of joy and at the same time, risk, involve in LOVE. I believe, we live to Love. :)
Have a happy weekend.

Mizé said...

Great defenition of love and companionship. The hard part is to put it in practice...
Thanks for sharing.
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Good week ahead!
My best regards, Mizé.

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setiya said...

power love, is very very.........

Nairobian Perspective said...

what telling questions, love is just a wonderful feeling! and to loose it especially the real deal is quite painful, !

KAT said...

I really enjoyed reading this. Thank you for posting it.

It kind of makes you think....

Take care,

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have a nice day....

Love mean sharing each other.. (it's my version)
see ya!....

balidreamhome said...

Love is just slightly lower than GOD :-)

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TheTVObserver said...

There is nothing as powerful as LOVE, from the LOVE of hate, war, anger, food, pain etc. Almost everything we do in life in powered by LOVE. Your list only proves how connected we are with LOVE and all its effects on our lives.

I often find it very interesting how someone will one day LOVE you with all of their heart and the next day its court time - screaming at the top of your voices and all you can think of is driving a long and sharp object through his or her heart.

I love this article. This is one of those we print and share it with friends and family.


Umma said...

I love this post Dorothy, love truly an amazing word that touches everybody's heart.

Great post.. keep it up.

BeadedTail said...

What a beautiful, thought-provoking post!

Marianus said...

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and thanks for sharing this topics...

Poison-Tech' blog said...

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MO said...

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I got your comment and thank you for letting me know. I'm thrilled that you are so happy with it :)

Thank you!!!

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ekosulistio said...

wow... nice..... i has read your posting... i like it

Arya said...

I do agree with your word, but I'm still confuse to place responsibility, take and give meaning of love at your word. Because I think the love also mean them. Thanks.

D.Lo's Daily Thoughts said...

One word...powerful!

ekosulistio said...

very interesting.. i like it

vettech said...

What a thoughtful and intriguing post about the nature of love... Except the John Denver quote, cause when I read his name I only remember that he beat his wife.

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Cascia Talbert said...

I agree. Very interesting descriptions about love.

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Simply Chimica said...

love this post!

Syifa said...

and Love ... is giving without demanding.

wahyuda said...

love of great !!!!!!!!

Mixed said...

I agree. Love is such a wonderful feeling. Without love, life is so dull.

AngelBaby said...

I love this post - it is just wonderful and thought provoking. Here is my story on love.

I remember after my husband of 25 years died, my future daughter in law and I were getting pictures together for their wedding. I was so shocked when I saw the pictures of my husband when he was young and then the ones just before he died. I could not believe how much he had aged. He was always the same to me, I never saw him change. We were so in love with each other that all we saw was the love inside. Neither one of us was perfect but we could communicate with each other and compromise. The laughter, oh it was wonderful, we had so much fun.

I don't know if you get to have love like that more than once in a lifetime but I would sure love to have it again. I had what most people dream of and now it is gone so I just cherish the memories.

Love and Blessings,

Susan Cook said...

Wow great questions. The first half I probably can say yes to most of them, at least once in my life.

The second part reminds me of the passage from the bible."Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, etc."

Penny said...

Wow what a beautiful list. It's so important to include both the good and the bad things on the list, because that's what love is truly about :)

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Kerja Keras Adalah Energi Kita said...

so sweet and touched..make me as a guy rethink about meaning of love..
as we known,love is universal value which have two side..we can feel it but we can touch it..and sometime we can understand it..great post..
Kerja Keras Adalah Energi Kita