Sunday, November 1, 2009
Does the attraction of opposites last?
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Female & Male Prayers...
I pray for a man, who's not a creep.
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long.
One who thinks before he speaks.
One who'll call, not wait for weeks.
I pray he's gainfully employed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door, massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh!
Send me a man who'll make love to my mind, who Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?"
I pray that this man will love me to no end.
And always be my very best friend.
Amen.
MALE PRAYER
I pray for a deaf-mute nymphomaniac with
huge boobs who owns a liquor store and a golf course.
This doesn't rhyme and I don't give a nuts.
Amen.
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I so could not resist...bringing a smile to your day!
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
To Love or not To Love..
You can pick up the pieces of your broken world of eternal happiness and you can learn from it and begin to rebuild what once was or you can stay broken and stop breathing...then die.
..to never smile for fear of frowning?
I wonder...do we even have the choice, to love or not to love?
Do we choose to fall in love or does love choose us?
Can one go about life, interacting with other people and never face the risk of falling in love?
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Gender Differences....
What is key in having a successful and enjoyable relationship is that the ups out number the downs.
When dealing with same or opposite gender relationships, each person experiences changes daily due to the challenges of life. In short nothing or no one will ever stay exactly the same.
In a relationship it is also vital to change together...and stay on the course directed toward the same goals.
Men and women were both gifted with distinct personality differences for a reason. The reason clearly being that they fit together like a puzzle... as long as the right pieces are used in the right spots. For some reason, both men and women seem to constantly want to re-cut those pieces and/or try to fit them somewhere else instead of just accepting what is. This is where we run into so many issues, such as... women wanting men to think like women, men wanting women to think like men....ect.
The main key to any successful relationship is simple. It is called 'acceptance'. We must learn to accept rather than expect.
My being female and writing from thoughts that derive from a female mind, I know it seems that I am always picking on the guys or favoring the girls. Not so....in fact I am indirectly trying to get both genders to see the big picture. It is when we are all tangled up in emotions due to matters of the heart...that the picture tends to get pretty small and our vision can become a bit narrow...very narrow in some cases.
Both genders do have their quirks...that is what makes us unique and individual. Without those gender differences we would not be attracted to each other. We simply would not fit!
Lets take a look at some of the quirks that can so drive a partner around the bend.......
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Porn, Girly mags and Internet fantasy girls.
This article was about men and their innate sexual desires in comparison to a Rams sexual drive.
After reading this article ...I could not get the issue of this 'innate need or desire' to view pornography, Hustler/playboy magazines and/or the, 'oh so' available Internet airbrushed fantasy girls out of my head.
I know that we are a very diverse society and in saying that we all have our own thoughts and interpretations of everything. In a relationship it is vital to to be communicative and on the same page as our partners when we are dealing with emotional issues especially sexual activities.
Yes..the sexual part of the relationship is strongly emotional for the female. Just as the visual aspect is for the male. This is one of those important issues that is a must to deal with in the early stages of the relationship. If you are aware of an emotional issue your partner is suffering from and you commit to the relationship regardless......then it will be up to you to bend a bit more in order to support your partner. It is vital to respect each others thoughts and feelings about sensitive and personal thoughts and feelings.
If a relationship consists of one partner who sees nothing wrong with viewing pornography, fantasizing out loud, looking at a Hustler/Playboy girly mags or even photos of perfectly airbrushed young provocative women on the Internet and the other partner does not...then this relationship does have an issue. The balance needed for a stable understanding is most definitely offset.
The sexual part of a relationship should be approached freely and eagerly. Sex is about fun and enjoyment with your partner in a physical sense. Neither partner should have to pretend or feel that they cannot be honest if they do not desire the same thing.
We all know that nothing stays the same forever...as that would be horribly dull and non-stimulating. As time goes by...relationships along with the partners involved, do change.
Again it is essential to remain on the same page and/or follow the same roads through out those changes. Communication being a vital key through out the entirety of the relationship does make it possible to overcome many of the changes that come with the ups and downs of life.
There is no right or wrong in the bedroom between couples as long as they are both are in 'honest agreement' to what each other desires. Choosing a compatible partner of the same mind set makes it right.
There are many different female and male mind sets where sex is involved. Each mind rationalizes differently about the viewing of pornography, girly mags, and/or Internet photos.
Being aware that we are all different and we do not all see things in the same light is also a key to picking the partner that will be compatible for you.
Below, I have listed as many mindsets in connection with this topic that I have run into through my years of research.
There are woman....
that...do not care where their partners gets their sexual appetite or fantasies from as long as they come home for dinner....so to speak!
that... have absolutely no problem viewing pornography or even watching strippers with their partners.
that... have no problem having sex with another women in front of their partners or even including their partner.
that... will go out and purchase Hustler/Penthouse/Playboy girly mags for their partner.
that... feel it is what is expected of them or that they have no choice and it is what the man wants and desires that is the priority.
that... act as if they do not care when the whole time they are feeling humiliated even violated, yet for some reason continue the fasaud of enjoying what is going on in their bedroom.
that... do not appreciate their partner viewing photos of women in order to get in the mood so to speak.
that...want to feel that they are their partners fantasy girl .
that... do not appreciate nor condone what strippers do or stand for.
that... do think pornography is demeaning women of the norm.
that... do think that men can get very confused as to the real image of a woman's body in comparison to the, 'oh so perfect' airbrushed photos from magazines and the Internet.
There are men....
that...view pornography or girly mags out of habit and/or as a way of socializing with the guys.
that...think it is their right of passage as a man to view pornography, strippers, girly mags, and/or sexually explicit and provocative photos.
that...cannot for the life of them, understand why any woman would be threatened by a photo of a young, perfectly airbrushed female stretched out in 100 sultry and provocative positions.
that...hide their need or desire to view pornography as a means to get turned on.
that...confuse a woman's interpretation of their need or desire to view pornography, girly mags, Internet photos as a means of control and feel suffocated by it.
that...pretend they are not interested in viewing pornography, girly mags or Internet photos...and then eventually begin to sneak around to view it, later on in the relationship.
that...do understand and respect their partners interpretation of his need or desire to view pornography, girly mags and/or Internet photos.
that...do not prioritize their desire or need to view pornography, girly mags and/or Internet Photos above their partner's feelings.
that...do feel they are disrespecting woman when they take part and add to the demand of pornography, girly mag and/or Internet photos.
...I am reaching out to you very intelligent and independent thinkers and would love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
As a Parent...What is Betrayal to you?
To you, the parent, this choice that was made, more than not against your better wishes is like a siren going off in your head twenty-four hours of your day. To your child it is what they need to do, no reason, no rhyme, they just NEED to do this. This is their right, this is their choice and it has nothing to do with you. This is not a personal vendetta against you.
So now what? You can cry and scream and yell all you want. Guess what? It does not matter. You, the parent are not their concern at that moment. They are not worried about you. They are only worried about themselves. They are not outright hurting you in their minds. Again I repeat...it is not a personnel attack. But you still feel betrayed by their choice in life right now. Betrayal floods your veins every second after the initial attack. It makes breathing almost impossible. Your blood feels poisoned....
Sunday, August 30, 2009
~~Bite Me~~
We all find ourselves reaching that point of overreacting out of frustration or to an unaddressed issue that has been bothering us for while.
There is really no need for this to happen.
Relationships are tough enough to keep balanced without allowing the small stuff to build up and tumble down all at one time.
We must all practice and learn how to vent at the exact time that the irritation occurs. This will avoid so many of those horrible outbursts which we either go on and on and on about or leaves us feeling like a super jerk.
Now please do not get me wrong here...there are good ways and bad ways to vent or to quietly let someone know that they have stepped on your last nerve.
One excellent way to do this is to find a phrase that works for you.
It can be...'I love you too' with a bit of a cynical edge to it... 'Nice weather eh'... or my all time favorite...'Bite Me'.
Well I have many, many times. And it feels soooo good once said. It is like my own little personal shot at whatever urks me at that moment.
Friday, August 14, 2009
~Women...Men...Collision~
Can you imagine going on through life with a partner and never, ever bumping heads? (zzzzzzz)
Yup, boring! It would be like two mindless, passionless, dependent, robots, maintaining there actions on the same monotone level day after day after day. No cuddling, no smiling, no laughter. Ugh and the SEX......I mean, can you imagine two robots having sex.
Again I say, "BORING"
We need to spice things up, to know that we are alive and that our partners are also alive. When we have these so called collisions, it awakens our deepest passions which we both need to feel, in order to go into a deeper love for one another.
I know you are thinking that to collide only causes war and indifference. You are mostly correct, but how can we know peace with out war? How can we revive or continue to gain in our passions without a true honest indifference between each other now and then? We cannot. Just think about how much fun making up is...every time. Think about it. Keep in mind....the bottom line as in anything I share with you about men and women, we must have balance.........
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Betrayed by a Trust
You loved him with your entire being. You gave him your heart and soul.He was the bright light of your day and the peaceful darkness of your night.
Every thought you possessed started and ended with him and your love for him.
Your trust in him was given without question.
You are then confronted with one of the worst breaches a heart can survive.
He gave his heart to another.
He cherished and shared private moments with another.
He left you with nothing but a broken heart.
Your love has been violated, leaving you feeling betrayed by your own trust.
But then....
He wants you back.
He cannot live without you.
He has crawled back to you, begging for forgiveness.
Begging for your heart to be returned.
Begging for your trust once again.
Does he not know what he has done to you through his choice of actions?
How does one forgive?
How does one forget?
Most of all ...how does one trust again after such a betrayal.............
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Is your partner......
Well, if you think it is frustrating for you..........







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