tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16348053888421292542024-02-20T21:02:21.506-08:00~Womensselfesteem.com's Relationship Blog~I share with you my thoughts about the differences between women and men, in hope to shed a little bit of light in the understanding of their innate sexuality. <br>
You will find straight forward answers to questions and confusions that some of us only dare to whisper or think about, but never say out loud~<br>
Relationships play a very important part in our health and happiness. Why would you not want to understand everything you can to make your relationship a better one?Relationshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11895229315056122800noreply@blogger.comBlogger84125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-16496899930337186362017-03-21T15:41:00.001-07:002017-03-22T20:57:37.518-07:00Commitment is not a piece of cake~<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
We all want to be in a relationship at one point in our lives, but do we ever really stop and think about the true meaning of the responsibility of committing to a relationship?</div>
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Do we commit to a relationship like we commit to a piece of cake? (Silly analogy, but effective)</div>
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As in, taking some time to think whether either is going to be distasteful once we commit.</div>
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Can you imagine how much serious pain and agony could have been avoided over the years if people would just take commitment more seriously and realize it is not just simply quenching a craving or a thirst?</div>
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Instinctively, we all want to be in a relationship, but again do we really understand the meanings behind the commitment?</div>
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Being of the human species, tends to set us up to be driven in a direction by our feelings, which in turn makes the matters of our heart weigh heavily on our decision making.</div>
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Hence the failure of relationships over and over again. </div>
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We tend to commit for many of the wrong reasons or no reason at all. </div>
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Once the reality of those flighty decisions begins to hold us accountable, all of a sudden the relationship is not so much fun anymore. All of a sudden we are looking for distractions or deflections from that reality. The reasons that blinded us in the beginning are now no longer recognizable. </div>
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Are we mature or even educated enough to be aware of the importance of understanding what a relationship entails?</div>
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Maturity, education and/or experience are very instrumental in being able to not only commit to a relationship, but also to continue strengthening it as it grows.</div>
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Realistically..committing to a relationship is a very serious decision, one that should not ever be made out of lust, without serious thought, but mostly never taken lightly.</div>
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Commitment should never be taken lightly as it is proof of ones character and their ability to respect another.</div>
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Do you know what it is like being Trapped in a thought ?</div>
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What was a simple drip in your pool of thoughts, quickly turned into an ocean of tidal waves rolling into each other, over and over again. This is what it feels like to not have positive control over your mind.</div>
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Our minds often repeat hurtful thoughts or scenarios over and over, even when we'd much rather let them go. If you start really listening to your inner voice, you are probably dwelling on the past, remembering how someone may have let you down or how much anger you still hold back from being hurt. If you fear the challenges that are waiting for you or you are ashamed at where you are now in your life as compared to where you had planned on being, these fears will definitely be in line to play the mind game on you. All of these insecure or hurtful emotions that you once tucked away will come back to play when the game begins. The problem is, when they come back, you will not recognize them and this will be your first bad move. Now the mind game begins.</div>
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The game is of the mind, to confuse you in your thought process. When your mind is triggered even slightly by a word, a picture, or even a look what we want to do is to think positive, nice, sweet and safe thoughts. If you have the slightest opening in your mind the game will begin. It will take a thought and wait for your first emotional weakness. Then it will twist that thought and magnify it so that it feeds on that weakness and sends you into that ugly world of negative thinking.</div>
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You would give anything to shake off these negative thoughts, but we all know so well that it's easier said than done. Instead you struggle through your day feeling like you are a freak and that if you do not get a grip on this mind game and soon you will explode. All that you want is to be free of negative thoughts and be happy all the time.</div>
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You spend a lot of time thinking over negative feelings and sulking over regrets and misfortunes. The worst part is that the more you try to end this horrible game that twists your brain so tight, the worse it gets. You will try to avoid your hidden shames and worries or drown them with alcohol or drugs. All that happens when that little fix-it ends is that the mind game becomes stronger.</div>
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New thoughts continue, the game attacks again only to turn those thoughts against you. You can feel them escalate into negative scenarios in your mind, but at this point powerless. The power of the game is winning and you are now in the believing stage of the game. Your mind now believes your negative thoughts. You are forced to react and through this reaction the mind game soars and takes over even further. Now it not only controls you but it has also taken control of your entire world and whoever is in it at the time. You collapse from the draining feeling of failure once again. You feel that you will never be able to win this mind game. You feel that you will be a pawn for the rest of your days on earth. A doormat and a bug to stepped on over and over again because of your inability to gain strength and take control of your positive mind. So why not just give in? Why not just bow down whenever you fail to think positive thoughts? Well, I will tell you why you do not want to do that!</div>
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You are a human being with a heart and a brain. You were given the ability to feel emotions. Emotions such as: self-respect, self-esteem, humor, love, laughter, sexuality, self-confidence but most of all you were given intelligence and the will to survive. You were given the gift of life. Those are the reasons to fight. How to fight is also right there in front of you.</div>
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You are already aware of the mind game. Most of you have played it so long that you should be the champions by now. I have talked about habits many times and I will keep talking about them. Through habits you can defeat many of those mind games. Try to simplify your thoughts. The stronger the game tries to twist them the harder you work to shrink them.</div>
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I read about an interesting way to look at this. Think of your thoughts as a pop-up ad on your computer. You see it and then you don`t. Or it pops up and you simply delete it without giving it a second thought. Even if it was a negative pop-up you spend no time at all analyzing where it came from, you simply carry on with what you were doing. This is a good way to play, and win the game. Also another way to play and win is when your thought begins to twist through the negative game, start to vocalize it. Sing it quietly to yourself or hum outloud. This will confuse the game, and throw it off track. Immediately when you get a thought that seems to be fair game think of something very funny or a very sad movie that made you cry. A very good habit is to change your thought track. The game cannot keep up when the track is jumped. Be aware that your mind is a game field but you have to play it in order to win. If you do not play you will lose by defeat. SAD!!!</div>
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Valentine's Day is around the corner and I am going to share with you a little bit about this special day through my thoughts and also on how it was originally intended for the pleasure of the male as per the findings through folklore and historical facts. Here is a bit about what history has depicted as to how Valentine's Day began.</div>
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**For eight hundred years prior to the founding of Valentine's Day, the Romans practiced a somewhat pagan frolic in mid-February celebrating the young men's rite of passage to the 'God Lupercus'. This celebration featured a lottery in which young men would draw the names of certain teenage girls from a box. The girl would be assigned to each young man as his sexual companion during the remaining year.<br />
Eventually this changed slightly, instead of the names of young women, the box would contain the names of saints. Both women and men were allowed to draw from the box, and the game was to resemble the ways of the saint they drew during the rest of the year. For obvious reasons, many of the men were not too happy with the stated changes.<br />
Another change that evolved at that time was the replacement of the 'God Lupercus' with another that the Church deemed as a suitable patron saint of love. They found an appropriate choice in 'Valentine', who, in AD 270 was beheaded by Emperor Claudius. Claudius who then decided that married men made weak soldiers, banned marriage from his empire. But Valentine secretly would marry young men that came to him. When Claudius found out about Valentine, he first tried to convert him to paganism. Hence, Valentine reversed the strategy, trying instead to convert Claudius. When he failed, he was stoned and beheaded.<br />
During the days of Valentine's imprisonment, he fell in love with the blind daughter of his jailer. According to legend, his love for her, and his great faith, miraculously healed her from her blindness just before his death. Before he was put to death, he signed a final message to her, 'From your Valentine.' A phrase that has been used on this day ever since.<br />
Even though the lottery for women had been banned by the church, the mid-February holiday in commemoration of St. Valentine was still used by Roman men to seek the affection of women. It became a tradition for the men to give the ones they admired<b><i> a hand-written message of affection</i></b>, which would contain 'Valentine's' name.</div>
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Now you know a little bit more as far as how Valentine's Day came to be, and here are my thoughts..As the years moved on and the world advanced into more of a marketing and profit oriented lifestyle, Valentine's Day has evolved into more of a means to profit. I will even take it one step further and say that Valentine's Day has become a trigger of stress for some. Why is that you may ask....because, to some people, it means more about getting something to prove to themselves or others that they are deemed as special on that day. I have even known some people that send themselves flowers and tell others that they have that special someone for that exact reason. Why not just say that you have sent yourself flowers... why not just say that you are your special person? More than not, it is because that is what Valentine's Day has become. Make today the first time that you decide to send yourself flowers on Valentine's Day~<br />
Please, do not get me wrong here... I am not belittling the romantic note behind Valentine's Day, what I am doing is trying to allow it to be for everyone and anyone that just wants to send a message whether it be friendly or affectionate to another. When I was a child, I gave out 100's of Valentine's Day cards. I also made sure that I did not miss anyone as I did not want anyone to feel that they were not in some way deserving of a special message. So why as we get older, does Valentine's Day have to be segregated to just one person? You will notice that I have bold-faced a certain few words in the little story above. <i>A </i><b><i>hand-written message of affection</i>....</b> that is one of the most important thoughts that should be behind Valentine's Day. It is not just about sending a true love or an intimate partner a gift... it is about sending someone that you cherish as a friend or even a trusted neighbor a little something.<br />
Valentine's Day is about you and I have never seen it written anywhere that sending flowers or a card cannot be to yourself or to a friend~</div>
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<b>~This is my Valentine"s Day message to all of you~</b></div>
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<i><b>For more Valentine thoughts visit</b></i> <a href="http://www.womensselfesteem.com/articles/article/2617696/42950.htm" target="_blank">Dorothyl</a><br />
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Relationships are made up of two people. Two people with very unique characteristics and different minds. Whether these qualities are genetically inherited or through learned behavior, matters not, as they are the characteristics that make us who we are right now.</div>
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Giving that, a relationship consists of two minds, which in most cases have to work fairly hard at being compatible and finding some sort of <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happiness" rel="wikipedia" title="Happiness">happiness</a> balance...the type of partner you are is vital to the success of your relationship.</div>
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<b>Desperate</b>...will overlook & endure just about any type of treatment or lack of...which in most cases is abuse... just to have someone.</div>
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<b>Controlling/Domineering.</b>....always feels the need to be in charge or right in every situation.</div>
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<b>Sacrifices.</b>..always puts others desires and needs first.</div>
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There is not one person reading this list that will not identify with one or more of the above types. Be very honest with yourself in your choice as you fool noone by choosing one that you are not or would like to think you are. You might even choose several types as we are all made up of a variety of characteristics.</div>
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Once you can determine and accept which type of partner you are, then and only then will you be able to understand the why's of who you are right now in your relationship or if you are even relationship material at this point in your self-understanding. Admitting we have faults or shortcomings is probably one of the hardest self-realizations a <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mind" rel="wikipedia" title="Mind">human mind</a> can deal with. Once you have acknowledged your shortcomings...then what? Now you have to actually work at changing it to better suit your relationship at hand or any future relationship.</div>
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Everyone is quite aware by now that being able to trust and be honest with ones partner are both vital in having a healthy and secure relationship. It is also a fact that any relationship takes honest effort from both sides. This is called balance as I mentioned earlier in this post.</div>
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We also tend to feel ashamed or embarrassed when we are confronted with our shortcomings. Don't be...it is the one who ignores or pretends to be perfect or feels that they are expected to be perfect that is in real trouble. Being a true loving and worthy partner does demand a sense of genuine and honest understandingof ones-self. You owe truth not only to yourself... you owe it to your partner as well.</div>
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When reading this..please be honest with yourself and please do feel free to share your honesty. Also add to my list of partner types as I am far from perfect myself!</div>
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Mom's are caring</div>
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Mom's are direction</div>
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Mom's laugh because they love</div>
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Mom's know without being told</div>
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Mom's hear without even listening</div>
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Mom's cry in the quiet of their hearts</div>
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Mom's sigh without loosing their smile</div>
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Mom's very being is the opening to our doorway to life</div>
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Mom's feel us even when we do not feel ourselves</div>
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Mom's even at their worse are still our mom's</div>
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Mom's are the true meaning of unconditional</div>
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Mom's are angels without wings</div>
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Mom's are why Dad's exist</div>
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Mom's are daughters too</div>
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Mom's are always there<br />
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we, the children should never take our Mom's for granted...not even one time~</div>
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One of the most beautiful qualities of a true relationship between couples is...</div>
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To be understood is by far one of the most important links responsible for joining two hearts and two minds together.</div>
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This link can only be reached through a mutual connection, one that is completely separate from the normal everyday passing-bye type of connection.</div>
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People connect all of the time, however it is when that connection cannot be broken or distracted that it becomes meaningful and almost impossible to resist. At that point, it begins the emotional oneness that gives birth to the feelings of wanting even longing for another. This type of connection between two people has been known to be life changing in so many respects. </div>
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It is not uncommon to hear of or even know of two people that have left past lives because of the innate drive that connecting with another person can cause. It can even be described as relentless in its ability to control ones mind in order to complete that connection. </div>
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To be understood and to understand another is what love stories are made of. No matter what challenges a couple may endure throughout their day, in the end it is all about understanding each other.</div>
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We are all individuals and even the worlds happiest couples, do not share the same character. They simply share an amazing awareness and understanding of each others differences. </div>
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In choosing this way of thinking, they do not allow their differences to become, for lack of a better term, ' a ping-pong ball' between them. </div>
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As a couple, they can accept that they are individuals and that their differences are part and parcel of that fact.</div>
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Accepting each others differences does not mean that you will bow down to each others way of thinking, just that you respect your own differences and in-turn your partners as well.</div>
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Just because one does not agree with another, does not make either one right or wrong. It just means that they each have their own way of thinking and interpreting things.</div>
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In accepting your partner for who he/she is, will allow you to accept and understand each other as individuals. </div>
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I have written, several times about finding that someone who is<i><a href="http://selfesteemblogforwomen.blogspot.ca/2012/02/to-meyou-are-perfect.html" target="_blank"> perfect for you</a> </i>throughout my past articles, because it is one of the most important realizations to have when choosing a partner.</div>
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It is no secret in that, when one meets someone new and exciting, one tends to see through blinders. Those blinders are what will undoubtedly blur ones vision, which in turn will totally confuse ones judgement as to who that person really is. This also being interpreted as, 'We only see, what or whom , we want to see, or what I deem as, 'the stage of masks'.</div>
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Fact, you want to be on your best behavior in the beginning of any new relationship and yes, the new feeling of attraction is so perfect that you do not want to chance loosing it by being your, 'real selves'. Your subconscious tends to play hide and seek with what you choose to accept in this new person.</div>
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At this point, it is vital to realize whether he or she is perfect for you because you want to see them that way or because they are actually perfect for you.</div>
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'Patience is a virtue' a proverbial phrase that speaks volumes in just 4 words. These words are the pillars in which the foundation of your new relationship should be built on.</div>
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By taking your time in getting to know this new person you have allowed into your life, and by allowing the relationship to evolve and grow naturally, you will not find yourself trapped in the stages of, "I didn't change, you just never knew me".</div>
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I have yet to read anywhere that there is any time constraint on committing to a new relationship... by knowing thyself, then and only then will you truly be able understand the importance of knowing that new person in your life.</div>
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In a relationship one of the first mistakes people make, is in depending on the other to an unrealistic extreme. People repeatedly wonder where they went wrong once they realize, that they fear the loss of their partner only because of the fear of being alone, and/or when they lost their ability to be independent of another. Unless you were born a twin, or were forced to be very dependent on someone throughout your life, being alone is one of the most natural ways of being. A relationship should not be about surviving on your partners air that they breathe. It should however be about allowing that person to breathe along with you in your space, vice-verse.<br />
We can be single in a relationship, single in the sense of continuing to be you. I am not talking about being selfish when I speak of being single, I am talking about being your own person first. Being single in a relationship, is also the sense of knowing full well that even if there are days, months, even a lifetime that you will not be able to spend with that certain someone, that you will survive and be happy within yourself. This is not to say that, people do not miss a partner that they have lost, or the happiness that they have shared. Being single in a relationship means being dependent on you because at the end of the day... it is only you in reality.<br />
People tend to depend on their partners to make them happy, and/or to make their day a good day. This is another mistake made over and over again in relationships. It is utterly impossible for one person to make another happy unless that person wants to be happy first. A single minded person chooses to be happy before they expect another to make them happy. A single minded person can sleep in a separate bedroom and not feel in any way, that it will make or break their relationship. When we are new to a relationship, we genuinely loose ourselves in our partners. This is a time when we must be very aware of how easily we can loose our independence. Our independence gives us a certain strength which is vital to our ability to continue to grow in a healthy and balanced direction, which in turn creates a healthy and happy partner. I have met many people that seem to think they need to constantly be around others, which for many of those, that same need has played havoc on their relationships. In not realizing that it is because they do not think independently or choose to not think independently, they have allowed that fear of being alone to control them. Our thoughts do very much control our destiny.<br />
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<span style="font-style: normal;">To ME ...you are PERFECT~... words that most people love to hear. These are words that most partners not only wait to hear, but also tend to gauge their confidence level by. In saying that... for all of you partners out there that feel that they are at loss for words...here they are. Telling someone that they are perfect for you, means more to them than a box of candy or flowers.</span><br />
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These are what we deem as words with a thousand meanings. You are not just complimenting your partner, you are in-fact telling your partner in no uncertain terms that he/she is exactly what you want and who you would like to share your life with. In those few words, you are accepting them as they are, right there in front of you. On another note...these are the words that set you apart from any movie star.... because, they are real~</div>
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These words will more than not, take a relationship to a new and deeper level for many. I feel that the only other thing that can truly make a person feel good coming from another, is a smile.</div>
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As human beings we are born with an innate need to better ourselves. We work very hard at pleasing someone, at one time or another along our journeys through life. Telling someone that they are perfect for you, is placing them on a unique and special plateau where only the two of you exist. This feeling of belonging is one of the most important and self-nourishing feelings we can experience from another. It really does not take a lot to make your partner feel good.. in saying these words, you cannot go wrong. It is one of the right steps towards a happy and healthy relationship.</div>
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One of those insecurites that I seem to address more and more in my thoughts is jealousy. Below you will read a letter sent to me by a women who has seriously reached a desperate point in her relationship, hence why she wrote a complete stranger with her cry for help. </span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><em>She wrote......</em></span></span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;">***************</span></span></div><div align="center"></div><br /><div align="left"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">I </span><span style="color:#cccccc;">am writting this as I am driving myself and my partner insane with my Jealousy.</span></span> <span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;color:#cccccc;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">My Partner gives me no reason to think he is a womenizer or does he check females out of the internet or anything like that</span>, </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">its just me my self esteem is so low I compare myself to every walking female and if he dares to say "oh that girl has unusual eyes" </span><span style="color:#cccccc;">thats it my head just goes, I start to</span> <span style="color:#cccccc;">think well he says my eyes are amazing maybe he likes hers better.</span></span> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">We go out for dinner and straight away im checking other girls out in the restaraunt, and making sure he dosent notice them. He has a few female friends on facebook and I have finally come to</span> <span style="color:#cccccc;">terms that they are just old school friends and as he tells me constantly it is just fb and dosent mean anything, I still deep down panic and think he's gonna meet up with one of them and end up falling in love with them,</span> </span> <span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">My partner adores me he tells me im sexy and that I just do it for him in every way physically and mentally, but still my god dam head is driving me insane, I keep alot of these horrible thought inside</span> <span style="color:#cccccc;">but sometimes well most of the time he can tell something is bothering me just by the look on my face. </span></span> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">This</span><span style="color:#cccccc;"> is really affecting us and I hate being like this as I know its not normal and I try to tell myself to stop but it just overtakes</span></span></span> </span><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;">I know im a good looking women, I have a bubbly personality and yeah I can walk into a room and turn heads and my partner has told me how he is proud to walk beside me so why the hell do I do this, its like this little voice is just cant get rid of. I have this fear that he is going to find something better, someone better is going to come along.</span></span> </span></div><br /><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;color:#cccccc;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">He is so supportive as well, he encourages me to get a hobbie so I go to the gym and I am starting</span> <span style="color:#cccccc;">photography and he is helping me buy a camera</span>. <span style="color:#cccccc;">S</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(34,34,34);font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">ince</span> reading your article's I have been saying to</span> </span><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;">myself</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"> I am unique strong and beautiful in every-way.</span></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;">Will I ever just be happy being me?</span>.</span><br /><br /><br /><a name='more'></a><div align="center"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="font-family:Arial;">***************</span></span></div><br /><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#cccccc;">Sound familiar or perhaps you have a friened that has or still is experiencing this horrific sense of hopleness in their relationship. I am sharing this with my readers as it too may help them to identify and rectify certain insecurities that may be causing a wedge in your relationship.</span></div><br /><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="font-family:Arial;"><em>My reply went as follows</em>:</span><br /><br /></span><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="font-family:Arial;">Hello ......<br />Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with me. You have taken a huge first step in just writing to me about your insecure feelings.These types of feelings are not fun and there is not one person on this earth that would not stop them if all it took was a simple thought. That is most certainly not to say it is impossible....however it takes real consistent self-talk and commitment in order to reset your thought boundaries.<br /><br />You have mentioned that you have read my articles...have you listened to my audio articles...as they are a bit more personal and have proven to be very effective for many woman?<br />Here are a few suggestions and understandings to get you started. I can help support you and even help you simplify situations but the real work is going to be within who you are and how you feel about who you are.</span></span><br /><br /><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="color:#cccccc;">The following suggestions should become a part of your minute by minute thinking.<br /><br />When you feel fear in the thought that your partner may leave you for another woman...that fear is real. What you must start to do when that happens is not fight it...try acknowledging it to yourself or even better to your partner, if you still have open communication. By that I mean... telling him that the fear is beginning...separate your fear from your actual reality. As fear is not a reality ...it is however a real emotion that is very controlling and when it becomes confused as to when to react or when not to react.... it can cause us alot of frustration and misery. It will warp our sense of what is really happening to what our fear thinks is happening.<br /><br />Also stop blaming yourself for how you feel... once you can simplify your fear and talk about it as it happens... you will be able to gain better control over it. Your feelings are real...it is the fact that you cannot control those feelings that needs to be reset.<br /><br />Sounds simple right...well you already know that there is nothing simple when you are caught up on the fear roller coaster. That is why it takes consistent and repetitive self-talk. Eventually your mind will automatically derail those thoughts that create your fear which in turn reacts at the wrong times.<br />The main reason people feel insecure in their relationships aside from certain actual deceptions, is how they feel about and see themselves. If you do not value everything about yourself, even the little imperfections that we all have, then you are going to automatically look at others as being better than yourself and in many cases a more suitable match for your own partner.<br />Low self-confidence is a double edged sword. It not only destructs you as a person, it also destructs your ability to trust in another persons thoughts of you. This is when you begin to do your partners thinking...it is a one persons mind conversation. You begin to control the entire scenario and it will always be pointed at belittling yourself and/or accusing your partner of something that they have no clue of. That is what uncontrolled emotions do.<br /><br />The next time a thought pops up ....chances are it will be the same thought that caused you misery once before ...immediately tell yourself that you have been here before and nothing good came of it...dissect what really is happening, and compare it to what you think is happening. Change how you handle it... even if you have to remove yourself for a few minutes to breathe away the anxiety that the fear will cause. This you will have to do everytime you feel the fear begin.<br /><br />So from this reply onward... feel free to write me every time you find yourself falling into the<br />fear zone. I can help you to simplify and see your thoughts in a different way.<br /><br />It is a good thing that you have such an understanding partner....now you should learn to be as understanding of yourself :)<br /><br />Remember...you are you .... there is no other like you...own that thought and be proud of it~<br />~D~</span></span></div><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="font-family:Arial;">***************</span> </span><br /><br /></div><div align="center"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#cccccc;">There are a few follow up correspondences since ... in which I will post at a later date.</span><br /></div><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#cccccc;"><span style="font-family:Arial;">~As always...I look forward to your thoughts and suggestions~</span> </span><br /></div><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#cccccc;"><em>Dorothyl</em></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#000000;"></span></div></div>Relationshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11895229315056122800noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-2039146380752824862011-09-28T09:02:00.000-07:002012-10-14T14:17:03.468-07:00Fat and Beautiful<div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com29tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-3426919695838889302011-09-05T09:54:00.000-07:002011-09-28T09:43:31.958-07:00PORNOGRAPHY...should I or shouldn't I?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://s223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/?action=view&current=pornselfesteem2-1.jpg" target="_blank"><img alt="Photobucket" border="0" height="267" src="http://i223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/pornselfesteem2-1.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;">Ahhh yes... the game of porn..the topic that has raised more that just ones sexual desires. Not only has it been known to be fuel for many addictive personalities, it has been known to play devils advocate between many partners throughout the years. Pornography has been around since the early 1900's and will be around for a long time as will any other of mans prosperous inventions. Pornography is not about romance, nor is it just about 2 adult people having sex...it is raw, it warps ones realities, it involves multiple numbers of people, including children and even animals. It will captivate and imprison many viewers that have the slightest addictive characteristic. There are no limits to what people will do to make money and pornography is a clear sign of that. It most definitely shows the level of weakness that a human-being can be brought down to. How can anyone say that pornography is a good thing?</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
<a name='more'></a>Unfortunately pornography is not just a picture of a sexy and beautiful girl or a washboard-abs tanned and/or a sweaty, but very hot guy, it is a form of entertainment that has caused serious complications in relationships.</div><div style="text-align: left;">I have touched on the topic of pornography many times throughout my articles, more so due to the fact that contrary to popular belief, it is not something for everybody and it has played a huge role in causing problems between partners. Pornography is a huge money maker, that we all agree on. What we do not all agree on is, should we or shouldn't be part of it in any way, shape or form?</div><div style="text-align: left;">When we are talking relationships, these are a few questions that should be addressed between partners such as:</div><div style="text-align: left;">...are you even aware of the fact that your partner is uncomfortable watching porn with you or watching you watch porn?</div><div style="text-align: left;">...do you even care if he/she is uncomfortable?</div><div style="text-align: left;">...have you expressed your feelings towards watching porn with your partner, so that they can be aware of how you feel?</div><div style="text-align: left;">....is watching pornography something you need in order to have desires for your partner?</div><div style="text-align: left;">There are many partners that find themselves caught in the trap of feeling very uncomfortable with the fact that their partners are very much into watching pornography. This feeling, if unaddressed, can and will become a huge battle within the field of ones self-esteem and confidence. If the person experiencing these uncomfortable feelings does not attempt to share them with her/his partner, they are in fact, indirectly allowing negativity into the relationship.</div><div style="text-align: left;">It is each partners responsibility to communicate any and all feelings whether they are positive or negative to each other. That is called communication and that is one of the vital keys to a successful and happy relationship. If you have taken all of the necessary steps in sharing your thoughts on porn to your partner and he/she continues to ignore them or blatantly not care, then it is a sure sign that this partner is not for you.</div><div style="text-align: left;">AS always, when it comes to relationships, my first words of advice are, "BE responsible for your own happiness and also BE responsible in communicating your thoughts with your partner. You are not a mind reader and neither is your partner. When you are in the getting to know you stage of a relationship... it is very important to be wise as to what your potential partners likes and dislikes are all about. Try to lift those love/lust blinders now and then and really see that person for who they are.</div><div style="text-align: left;">Bottom line, we are all responsible for our decisions and our actions in our relationships. If you do not want to compromise in any of your habits or choices, my advice to you is to steer clear of ever committing to a relationship.<br />
As far as pornography is concerned...should you or shouldn't you....do what you feel comfortable with and not a bit less than that~</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><b><i> ~ A successful relationship is all about a balance of communication and compromise ~</i></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><i><br />
</i></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><i>~ DorothyL ~</i></b></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-66879216307193773962011-07-18T07:34:00.000-07:002014-02-09T16:46:28.171-08:00Lost Feelings....now what?<div align="center">
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Have you ever found yourself lost in a relationship of confusion, as if you were speaking a completely foreign language to your partner, vice-verse?</div>
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Have you ever found, that you could not seem to find the right way back?</div>
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Back to when you understood and were understood, in every thing that you would say or do.</div>
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Back to where it was easy and natural to be in the relationship like waters that trickling down stream.</div>
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Have you ever found while making love with your partner that something just is not quite right, as in the click is not clicking for some unknown reason? His smell has changed, his touches have less impact on your intimate-self, you just cannot stay within the moment anymore...something is just not right~</div>
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All of these feelings of being lost or off in a relationship do and will happen at one time or another. It is what I call the warnings of 'negative complacency', resulting in the 'wallflower syndrome'.</div>
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Some would say that these feelings of being lost are the first steps to the end of the relationship and they may very well be. However, if they are detected early enough and dealt with between both partners, the end will not so easily be invited.<br />
It will take the efforts of both partners to find reason for the lost feelings. One partner cannot do this alone.<br />
<a name='more'></a>It will take courage and honesty from one, trust, maturity and understanding from the other.<br />
Sharing these feelings, even if they are not what a partner wants to hear, is vital to the success and longevity of a relationship. Hearing that your partner is having issues in their feelings toward you is not easily accepted, as immediately they are taken as a personal attack or even as a feeling of failure. Fair enough, take a minute, have your pity party, but then, do move onto the issues at hand. Your partner is being very brave and in that bravery, she/he is taking great risk of being misunderstood. In that action alone, respect and an open mind should be given in turn.</div>
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Whether you are the partner with the lost feelings or the partner being confided in...it is not an easy time in any relationship.<br />
It is a time when both partners must take their part in the relationship serious.<br />
It is time for both partners to remember what brought this relationship together in the beginning and work from there.<br />
It is a true reality check, that somewhere something has been forgotten or taken for granted.<br />
It is time to find what has been lost between each other and why.<br />
It is not the time to play badminton with blame or fault, it is not the time to dig up past indiscretions or mistakes.<br />
It is not time for name calling or using hurtful selfishness as a weapon. If partners allow these reactions of destruction to take place, the relationship will then most undoubtedly come to a bitter end.</div>
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Once again we are faced with choices. </div>
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The choices of.. listening, understanding and working together...</div>
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or falling into a poor-me-puddle and drowning all alone~<br />
~You Choose~</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-42912313332556657902011-05-16T12:25:00.001-07:002020-03-21T15:31:47.668-07:00Is he perfect?<div style="text-align: center;">
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~He isn't perfect...oh darn~ </div>
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Each gender shares the same misconceptions when seeking out a partner....he/she must be perfect~</div>
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Funny how we as human beings secretly and even subconsciously seek that perfect partner. What trips us up in this desire is that the partner we are seeking is not actually a perfect species in themselves, but that they are a perfect species for us~ </div>
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Speaking for women...I feel that we have our own innate desires and needs when searching for our partners. However, if we can keep in mind a few very valuable thoughts...we will not fail in finding him.</div>
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First and foremost, realize that ..he is not perfect.... neither are you, nor will the two of you ever be perfect.</div>
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However if...he can make you laugh at least once, cause you to think twice, admit to being human and apologizes freely, then hang onto him and give him all of you that you can. </div>
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He may not quote poetry, bring you flowers each day, he may not think about you every second, but he will give you one of the most delicate parts of himself, all knowing that you could easily break it...that being his heart~</div>
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Your goals will be in not hurting him, analyzing him, changing him, or expecting more of him than he can give. They will be in, giving him a smile when he makes you happy, yelling at him when he makes you mad and letting him know that you miss him when he is not there. Also.. love him deep when he is in need, hug him with all of your strength and listen when he needs to speak. Most of all remember this...no man is perfect, but there is a man that is perfect for you. </div>
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Simply put....one cannot be perfect alone~</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com33tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-62126235003333729472011-05-04T10:46:00.000-07:002011-05-16T12:27:00.607-07:00If only you could...<div align="center"><a href="http://s223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/?action=view&current=womensselfesteemfindsomeone.gif" target="_blank"><img alt="Photobucket" border="0" src="http://i223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/womensselfesteemfindsomeone.gif" /></a></div><div align="left">This is pretty much what one could consider as being signs of true commitment and complete awareness. To have a partner that can understand us for who we are and why we are, is what we all seek in a relationship. Once the initial newness of a relationship wears off, we are the left to deal with the real deal or the real person, this is when the relationship really begins and the reality of what commitment is really starts to sink in.<br />
To have a partner that delivers true unconditional love through consistent actions such as the ones above in the poster is what commitment is all about. Keeping in mind that commitment is not a one way street...it must come from both partners so as to join together in a healthy balance.<br />
Commitment is untimely, it does not fade away or step aside...if anything it gets stronger and more prominent with time. A partner that loses interest in his/her partner will not be able to show commitment through actions, they may acknowledge it through words when questioned or forced...proving that once again actions speak louder and much more genuinely than words.<br />
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It is imperative to remember to treat your partner as you wish to be treated. It is also imperative to not expect your partner to be who you want them to be, but to accept them for who they want to be and are.<br />
When expecting to be treated special or with exception...be aware that you in-turn are also offering/giving the same. As a human being, we love to mimic..we mimic without even realizing we are doing so.... in that we smile, when smiled at...we frown, when frowned at... we hug, when we get hugged... when we are complimented, we compliment back..ect. Practising what you preach is yet another way to maintain a healthy balance in a relationship <br />
So many questions why of relationships fail are asked over and over..I believe that one of the main reasons that contribute to a failed relationship is because the balance of commitment is off.</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">~Keeping a balance between giving what you expect to get... is key in finding that someone~</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">~D~</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-56695094757031415422011-04-22T17:16:00.000-07:002011-05-28T07:33:51.666-07:00HAPPY EASTER TO ALL~<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://s223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/?action=view&current=easter-1.jpg" target="_blank"><img alt="Photobucket" border="0" height="257" src="http://i223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/easter-1.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-1283129922127728322011-04-08T09:24:00.000-07:002011-04-08T09:26:57.280-07:00Apologize....<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeimOAnFhLDzwIUTzj2930ES_fre2Aoa6-Jd9A7b4HKjQ7LMOv85kbRKx98a6gLjHCDLA0tndH65WkGzD_e7du7ADhB1j1c2MNkL-QjTDnMQYE-ANu-dFWmHBdVPi2G41bopHgSM5CS8xL/s1600/apologize.jpg1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeimOAnFhLDzwIUTzj2930ES_fre2Aoa6-Jd9A7b4HKjQ7LMOv85kbRKx98a6gLjHCDLA0tndH65WkGzD_e7du7ADhB1j1c2MNkL-QjTDnMQYE-ANu-dFWmHBdVPi2G41bopHgSM5CS8xL/s400/apologize.jpg1.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-77733390995885485702011-03-07T12:16:00.000-08:002011-03-25T09:43:35.517-07:00Relationship Truisms<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6wCazNwdgIkXrsW6wI0591IMKRBJLy1aIGcgjR82wtLBBIrqeS1phpqlbwFYJewEcDZbRIbiALUDumKX0XSPKBzPEo40zsZhQB6ofxQxnYtncJTzFceKwB2P_ZN7rgsvY_OFO_7UQEnJG/s1600/relationship+truisms.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6wCazNwdgIkXrsW6wI0591IMKRBJLy1aIGcgjR82wtLBBIrqeS1phpqlbwFYJewEcDZbRIbiALUDumKX0XSPKBzPEo40zsZhQB6ofxQxnYtncJTzFceKwB2P_ZN7rgsvY_OFO_7UQEnJG/s320/relationship+truisms.jpg" width="234" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"></div><br />
<ul type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">you cannot make someone love you, you can however be someone who can be loved. The choice is then theirs.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">no matter how much you may want a relationship with someone, that someone just may not want a relationship with you.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">it can take years of invested time to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that matters. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">be aware that one wrong decision takes a split second to make, which will give you a life of heartache.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides to every relationship.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be your last word.. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">you are responsible for your own actions, no matter what causes them. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">there are people who love deeply, they just don't know how to show it...be patient, if you teach them lovingly, they will learn in turn.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">true friendship can continue to grow, through absence and distance as can a true love...where there is a will, there is most definitely a way.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you the way they want to.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">no matter how good a partner is, they will falter you at some point and that is when you must learn to forgive through your love.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">the world does not stop and wait for the sufferings of a broken heart, and neither should you.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, on the other hand, just because they don't argue, doesn't mean they do. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">we don't have to change our partner as long as we can understand that our partner does change. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">beware of negative thinking...as it can become a devils advocate in your relationship. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">how you understand who you are will help you to understand who your partner is.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">although the word "love" is ever so endearing, it can lose it`s value when said without thought or meaning.. <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">love is not for one to keep, it is however, to be to passed on, to stay alive.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">just because you are having a bad day...does not mean that your partner has to have one also.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">pretending to be someone you are not can be very tiring, why not save your energy for those who accept you for who you are.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">is it that, you never know what you have until you loose it or is it that, you know what you have and just never think your going to loose it...?</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">you can not go wrong with a smile or a hug, just as a simple, how are you...invites friendship.</li>
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<b>~Remember...anyone can be your Valentine..</b><br />
<b>After all...did it not begin with friendship ~</b><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>~D~</b></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com23tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-82555806487596663202011-01-18T08:18:00.000-08:002011-02-11T08:10:48.997-08:00What is Love????<div align="center"><a href="http://s223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/?action=view&current=love-1-1.gif" target="_blank"><img alt="Photobucket" border="0" src="http://i223.photobucket.com/albums/dd107/dorothylaf/love-1-1.gif" /></a><br />
<div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee;">'I cannot exist without you. I am forgetful of everything but seeing you again. My life seems to stop there, I see no further. You have absorb'd me. I have a sensation at the present moment as though I were dissolving. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee;">I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for religion... I have shudder'd at it... I shudder no more. I could be martyr'd for my religion: Love is my religion. I could die for that. I could die for you.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee;"> My creed is </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee;">love, and you are its only tenet. You have ravish'd me away by a power I cannot resist."</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #eeeeee;"> - letter written by John Keats</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div style="text-align: center;"><b>~~~</b></div></div><div style="text-align: left;">When I ran across the letter above...I could not resist putting it into a post. So many people ask about and search for the true understanding of love. I could easily write a list of what love is and what love is not....but I am sure you all can do that just as easily. In a few select words we know that love can be described as, trust, respect , belief, commitment ect. As I said, 'words'. But, how do we know when we are in love, have fallen in love, can actually feel love? What is Love?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Does love begin with first impressions such as...lust, intellect, physical appearance, or is it actually blinded by those first impressions, hence the courtship facades. Those are indeed the real mysteries unsolved to many when we allow ourselves to enter into the world of relationships.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">The small note above delivers to me, so many answers to those questions we so desperately seek an understanding to. Love is lust, love is eternity, love is life, love is a welcomed sacrifice of sorts, love is all consuming, love is demanding of commitment, love is unpredictable, love is all powerful, but most of all, love is a connection between two people that no other can sever~</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Many of us gamble in the game of love, a fact that I have written about so very many times. Entering into a relationship is a huge risk to the safety of ones heart, mind, and comfort zone. So why do we continue to challenge that risk without really knowing/understanding, the mystery of...' what is love?'</div><div style="text-align: left;">How many of us actually have ever felt what John Keats has shared with us?</div><div style="text-align: left;">How many of us think the one we choose is right for us because we want them to be?</div><div style="text-align: left;">How many of us choose a partner because of appearances, success, convenience, or controllability?</div><div style="text-align: left;">How many of us actually choose someone because it feels right , it feels good, it feels worthy, it feels like nothing we have ever experienced before?<br />
How many of us avoid everything about it, out of fear of the unknown?</div><div style="text-align: left;">How many times have you, yourself or a friend chosen a person for all the wrong reasons, thinking that is what love is?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Why do we not acknowledge those factors when we know in no uncertain terms just how damaging relationship failures are to our very own wellbeing?</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Well, if you have read and understood what 'Keats' wrote above, then you will know the answer to, 'What is Love?' We do it because the risk is worth the all consuming feelings that love delivers even if only for a short period of time which in some cases, does in fact deliver for a very long time.</div><div style="text-align: left;">Have you ever stopped and really thought about why you love that someone in your life and how their presence and/or absence means to your happiness?</div><div style="text-align: left;">These thoughts are essential to your not taking your relationship for granted and at the same time staying in-tune with what may or may not be changing between the two of you. Make awareness a second nature where your relationship is concerned and you will never be blindsided by the unknown~</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;"> Simply put, just another answer to 'What Is Love?''</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">'Love is like war.....</div><div style="text-align: center;"> Easy to begin but hard to end'</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">This is a little something that was sent to me from a very dear friend.</div><div style="text-align: center;">So many thanks to Collin of <a href="http://sexylegsandbody.blogspot.com/">Sexy Legs and Body</a>~</div><div style="text-align: center;">I think this will add a smile and chuckle to your day~</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">~D~</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1634805388842129254.post-89937687416824654532010-11-17T08:39:00.000-08:002011-01-10T15:29:13.430-08:00~Lights On...Lights Off~<div style="text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHp3zfU5hrzi_rQh85chCF4yT6lH2el6g8oQZnjyastswxCWnHpV9yl9ZaV7s4AW6-4V3HHmFffULmRzOWUJkuaSpV5g3vZ1hy_gv-_TKPtvvnyfG-UkGNL-EEYmA_lPNLz-9fuNjEezoK/s1600/lightson.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="223" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHp3zfU5hrzi_rQh85chCF4yT6lH2el6g8oQZnjyastswxCWnHpV9yl9ZaV7s4AW6-4V3HHmFffULmRzOWUJkuaSpV5g3vZ1hy_gv-_TKPtvvnyfG-UkGNL-EEYmA_lPNLz-9fuNjEezoK/s400/lightson.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Men ask....</div><div style="text-align: left;">Why do women prefer the lights off during intimate relations ... commonly known as sex?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Probably for the same reason that they dread thier reflection from the lights in certain department store fitting rooms..every little thing they consider an imperfection which is normally tucked underneath clothing is amplified or seen....or so they think~ They tend to feel very vulnerable which more than not enhances their lack of confidence in their beauty and their sexuality.</div><div style="text-align: left;">How they view their bodies is exactly how they think thier partners are viewing them also. What we have here is a definite confidence issue or the lack of it...resulting in wanting the lights off.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Woman ask...</div><div style="text-align: left;">Why is it that men prefer the lights on...during intimate relations...commonly known as sex?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Men are visual creatures, we already know this. It is as simple as that. Their feelings of arousal begin through thier visual senses in many cases . Men love woman...with clothes on and with clothes off. Men do not see a woman's body as she does. If he smiles and wants you, trust that he is not going to judge you. Men do not disect their partners body. It is so not about that, contrary to what so many woman believe. Men get more turned on when his partner is open and free with her body to not only himself but also to his body. He reacts to her passions and her sexual desires and that is all that matters at that point.</div><div style="text-align: left;">We all know that when we are aroused the last thing we are thinking about is what he looks like or what she looks like. Just being at the stage of lights on or off...both partners have already decided that they want that person.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">~With television and Internet's endless collection of what is deemed as 'eye candy' or 'the perfect body', it is no wonder that a women's confidence and self-assuredness are feeling challenged every minute of the day.</div><div style="text-align: left;">What women need to realize is that in reality...there is no perfect body. Believe it or not...most men already know this and they most certainly do not want what the media portrays as a perfect partner. Men will choose who they themselves deem as the perfect partner for them and to them.</div><div style="text-align: left;">Loving another person and sharing sexual intimacies goes far past the outer image issue. It is about wanting to be with that person because of who they are and missing them when they are not with you.</div><div style="text-align: left;">Sexual connections are an amazing key to keeping a relationship growing. Sexual connections are a language in themselves. When we as woman want the lights off...what we are really saying to our partners is that we do not trust that they truly love us for who we are. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>~The longer we keep the lights off...the longer we live in the dark~</b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>~D~</b></div><div align="center"><br />
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