Monday, May 16, 2011

Is he perfect?


~He isn't perfect...oh darn~ 
Each gender shares the same misconceptions when seeking out a partner....he/she must be perfect~
Funny how we as human beings secretly and even subconsciously seek that perfect partner. What trips us up in this desire is that the partner we are seeking is not actually a perfect species in themselves, but that they are a perfect species for us~ 
Speaking for women...I feel that we have our own innate desires and needs when searching for our partners. However, if we can keep in mind a few very valuable thoughts...we will not fail in finding him.
First and foremost,  realize that ..he is not perfect.... neither are you, nor will the two of you ever be perfect.
However if...he can make you laugh at least once, cause you to think twice, admit to being human and apologizes freely, then hang onto him and give him all of you that you can. 
He may not quote poetry, bring you flowers each day, he may not think about you every second, but he will give you one of the most delicate parts of himself, all knowing that you could easily break it...that being his heart~
Your goals will be in not hurting him, analyzing him, changing him, or expecting more of him than he can give. They will be in,  giving him a smile when he makes you happy, yelling at him when he makes you mad and letting him know that you miss him when he is not there. Also.. love him deep when he is in need, hug him with all of your strength and listen when he needs to speak. Most of all remember this...no man is perfect, but there is a man that is perfect for you. 

Simply put....one cannot be perfect alone~

~D~

33 comments:

Ferd said...

It took me a while to learn this, Dorothy, but when I did, my whole outlook on relationship changed. My first marriage was a frustration of each one trying to change the other into a copy of themselves. Each of us had too much ego.
Today, after a lot of water under the bridge and a lot of personal work, and remarried, I appreciate Gail for all that she is. Each of us bring different things to the relationship. I love her unique differences. Even when she drives me a little crazy, I consider it part of her charm.
It is so much easier to accept her imperfections when I myself know I am not perfect, and that I am accepted in the same way.

Amanda Trought said...

Coming over from Blogfrog, really enjoyed this post, thanks for sharing

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shengy said...

nice input

watadid said...

nice post ms d

Anonymous said...

Such truths! There is no such thing as a perfect man...love it! But you are right in saying that there is such a thing as a man perfect for you! Awesome post :)

Don E. Chute said...

Dorothy, that post was...perfect. Will you marry me ;-)

Aloha From Sunny South Florida!

suround said...

wow it is the perfect picture ,fun to watch

The Tame Lion said...

Cool! Well done! :)

Kloggers/Polly said...

I think that there are many people out there who are too ready to judge people on their looks. Sometimes the perfection that they demand could never be attainable. I have heard some say that a person is not tall enough or they have the wrong colour eyes or hair; they do not like their dialect; they are too thin; they do not like the way that they dress ... the list is often endless. When I hear remarks like this I think of the saying by Robert Burns in 'To a Louse' verse 8 - 'O would some power the giftie gie us to see ourselves as others see us.'
We none of us a perfect in another's eyes.

Tica said...

i'm learn from ur post... thanks...

jenie said...

love it!!!

a good reminder to u dreamers ;) missed it here dor...

come visit soon!

kayleigh.madison said...

My friends and I were literally just talking about the pursuit of the "perfect" guy today. This pretty much sums up the lesson we both need to learn asap. Thanks for putting it so simply...it now seems like a "well duh..."!

xox-Missi Mi-xox said...

I love your blog. I have been visiting quietly for months now. You have a very beautiful way of putting things, I love your writing style. You have given me a key through a few of your posts to go to a place within myself Ive more often than not been too afraid to look. Thank you.
xox-Missi-xox

sexylegsandbody said...

Haha, you said it well Dorothy! When down to facts, all men have to put their pants on one leg at a time. Once a girl realize this of the guy she likes, and she still likes him, she is well on her way to accepting him for what he is, and not for some movie hero who does not make mistakes.

I see you are getting marriage proposals now, careful Dorothy! :)

Hope you are keeping well.

Take care.

Colin.

nilam said...

i think no perfect men for women
but
just try to find the right men for you!
haia...

I-Love-Hate-America.Com said...

We should never look for a perfect partner because he/she does not exist and because we're never perfect either and will never be. What we should look for is a person who we can live with despite his/her imperfections.

Babymyn said...

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Mike said...

Well said. Each one of us has our quirks and our faults, but that's what makes us who we are. You will never find someone who does everything exactly how you want them to. You can find someone who loves you and means well by you though. We need to expect things to be bad sometimes and for mistakes to happen, but we also have to expect to forgive and be forgiven. I am quite happy now realizing this.

Myeika said...

Really enjoyed reading your post. I just started out blogging about my life experinces and my relationship. I found it healthy for me to get my frustration and thoughts out through my blogging, and your post was very good.

The Signs Daily said...

Most folks get together for all the wrong reasons anyway, or are too self-involved to really get to know the other person.

Thanks

Aaron

Bible Study - The Signs Daily

Dan O'Neil - Confidence Coach said...

What a great message - I always teach people to write a list of core qualities that they can't do with out and then a list of desire-ables. It's really important though that you don't be too specific on this - particularly with appearance. There's a fine line between it helping you to quickly assess someone for compatibility and having a list that restricts you to Mr or Mrs Perfect! Besides, some people just take your breath away... that can be awkward!

reyah said...

The one's perfect for us...is the one that GOD appointed to be our partner for life.

Bella said...

Beverly, indeed, there are no perfect lovers. Unfortunately, we often idealize our partners to such a point, that they disappoint us when they fail to meet our expectations. Thank you for the reminder that no one is perfect.

Jeshurun said...

What is: "A Perfect Partner" - anyway? One who seems perfectly fitted to us now - while we ourselves are yet still foolish little children? But, what if they don't desire to move forward with us spiritually?

Or, one that represents the fullness of what we ourselves are still striving for? And yet, if we ourselves knew where we were honestly headed, then we'd already spiritually be there!

Or, one that will move along with us - spiritually - throughout our own lives? But, how can we truthfully ascertain that magnificent possibility in advance? We cannot!

This is 'The Real Dilemma' in a nutshell!

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unikorna said...

Anyone who seeks perfect is very naive, you said misconception but you are too kind :).

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Healthy Anto said...

This is so true! We are faced with finding the perfect partner...and on the other hand we feel like if don't we're settling. Well, one of my friends said the other day.. if you can't find the one you love, love the one you have. It wasn't about settling, it was about appreciating what you have. I agreed. Keep on writing. I am inspired to create a blog about complaints that could be self-therapeutic. Thank you, again. :)

MzGaPeachy said...

I totally agree with this pot. Well said.

Gillette said...

Great! I enjoyed your post especially the last part! No man is perfect, but there is a man that is perfect for you. Oh my! Keep it up!

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Kristina said...

Thanks for the poetic article. Too many people are looking for perfection and want to mold their mate to be more perfect for their needs. Love is indeed about acceptance... And quality communication so that the relationship can grow despite human flaws.