Wednesday, May 4, 2011

If only you could...

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This is pretty much what one could consider as being signs of  true commitment and complete awareness. To have a partner that can understand us for who we are and why we are, is what we all seek in a relationship. Once the initial newness of a relationship wears off, we are the left to deal with the real deal or the real person, this is when the relationship really begins and the reality of what commitment is really starts to sink in.
To have a partner that delivers true unconditional love through consistent actions such as the ones above in the poster is what commitment is all about. Keeping in mind that commitment is not a one way street...it must come from both partners so as to join together in a healthy balance.
Commitment is untimely, it does not fade away or step aside...if anything it gets stronger and more prominent with time. A partner that loses interest in his/her partner will not be able to show commitment through actions, they may acknowledge it through words when questioned or forced...proving that once again actions speak louder and much more genuinely than words.

It is imperative to remember to treat your partner as you wish to be treated. It is also imperative to not expect your partner to be who you want them to be, but to accept them for who they want to be and are.
When expecting to be treated special or with exception...be aware that you in-turn are also offering/giving the same.  As a human being,  we love to mimic..we mimic without even realizing we are doing so.... in that we smile, when smiled at...we frown, when frowned at... we hug, when we get hugged... when we are complimented,  we compliment back..ect. Practising what you preach is yet another way to maintain a healthy balance in a relationship
So many questions why of relationships fail are asked over and over..I believe that one of the main reasons that contribute to a failed relationship is because the balance of commitment is off.

~Keeping a balance between giving what you expect to get... is key in finding that someone~


~D~

13 comments:

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Joyuna said...

That was sweet. I reckon I've found my someone. I'm still young, so who knows - commitment is scary, and it has to go both ways...

shengy said...

i love this ms d.

LivingShed said...

wow...this would be a great help for me and my friend

watadid said...

nice post..i really like this

GoodiesNBadies said...

yes..i have to be unconditional

Vinkay said...

you know..this help me a lot

lina@happy family said...

Your post is very enlightening me, D. I've found my man, but I realize now that I still need to strengthen my commitment...

Anonymous said...

Im sorry, I tried that, it did not work. as he wasnt interested in making it work. Just made use of me, my residence and my money. He left and moved in with a girl 15 years younger than him, just 2 weeks after I kicked him .

Anonymous said...

I think now days couples take each other for granted especial after marriage, husbands and wives forget the efforts that were made in the begin of the relationship in terms image and appearance, shouldn't be forgotten. I have been marriage for over 18 years and have teenage kids and both me and my husband time effort on our appearance and image too, sex is the great bit with a marriage people tend to think its the same old routine but you should spice things up and surprise each other, the plus side is that you have learn't what he or she likes due to being together for a long time (if you have made the effort to learn and to speak to each other)
Dressing up can be a great way, Me and my hubby love too,
I love a website called
http://wondawoman.co.uk

also keeping in shape is a must because there are beautiful men and women everywhere so image is important. Ask the question if i was a man would i fancy myself (if you know what i mean) women can be quite critical so use this in a postively way and make improvements...but don' t go to extremes. (e.g new hair do, lose some weight, dress up, pamper yourself)

Dorothy L said...

Thank you Anonymous for your thoughts. For my readers out there...the link added to this comment is for lingerie...in case you were expecting a content blog...it is not~

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If I only could find that someone too, will surely never let him go. :)

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