Sunday, September 13, 2009

Porn, Girly mags and Internet fantasy girls.


I read an interesting post written by 'The Guys Perspective' blog, one of the newer members of what I consider, My circle of Blogger Friends.
This article was about men and their innate sexual desires in comparison to a Rams sexual drive.

After reading this article ...I could not get the issue of this 'innate need or desire' to view pornography, Hustler/playboy magazines and/or the, 'oh so' available Internet airbrushed fantasy girls out of my head.

I know that we are a very diverse society and in saying that we all have our own thoughts and interpretations of everything. In a relationship it is vital to to be communicative and on the same page as our partners when we are dealing with emotional issues especially sexual activities.
Yes..the sexual part of the relationship is strongly emotional for the female. Just as the visual aspect is for the male. This is one of those important issues that is a must to deal with in the early stages of the relationship. If you are aware of an emotional issue your partner is suffering from and you commit to the relationship regardless......then it will be up to you to bend a bit more in order to support your partner. It is vital to respect each others thoughts and feelings about sensitive and personal thoughts and feelings.

If a relationship consists of one partner who sees nothing wrong with viewing pornography, fantasizing out loud, looking at a Hustler/Playboy girly mags or even photos of perfectly airbrushed young provocative women on the Internet and the other partner does not...then this relationship does have an issue. The balance needed for a stable understanding is most definitely offset.



The sexual part of a relationship should be approached freely and eagerly. Sex is about fun and enjoyment with your partner in a physical sense. Neither partner should have to pretend or feel that they cannot be honest if they do not desire the same thing.

We all know that nothing stays the same forever...as that would be horribly dull and non-stimulating. As time goes by...relationships along with the partners involved, do change.
Again it is essential to remain on the same page and/or follow the same roads through out those changes. Communication being a vital key through out the entirety of the relationship does make it possible to overcome many of the changes that come with the ups and downs of life.



There is no right or wrong in the bedroom between couples as long as they are both are in 'honest agreement' to what each other desires. Choosing a compatible partner of the same mind set makes it right.

There are many different female and male mind sets where sex is involved. Each mind rationalizes differently about the viewing of pornography, girly mags, and/or Internet photos.
Being aware that we are all different and we do not all see things in the same light is also a key to picking the partner that will be compatible for you.

Below, I have listed as many mindsets in connection with this topic that I have run into through my years of research.

There are woman....
that...do not care where their partners gets their sexual appetite or fantasies from as long as they come home for dinner....so to speak!

that... have absolutely no problem viewing pornography or even watching strippers with their partners.

that... have no problem having sex with another women in front of their partners or even including their partner.

that... will go out and purchase Hustler/Penthouse/Playboy girly mags for their partner.

that... feel it is what is expected of them or that they have no choice and it is what the man wants and desires that is the priority.

that... act as if they do not care when the whole time they are feeling humiliated even violated, yet for some reason continue the fasaud of enjoying what is going on in their bedroom.

that... do not appreciate their partner viewing photos of women in order to get in the mood so to speak.

that...want to feel that they are their partners fantasy girl .

that... do not appreciate nor condone what strippers do or stand for.

that... do think pornography is demeaning women of the norm.

that... do think that men can get very confused as to the real image of a woman's body in comparison to the, 'oh so perfect' airbrushed photos from magazines and the Internet.

There are men....
that...view pornography or girly mags out of habit and/or as a way of socializing with the guys.

that...think it is their right of passage as a man to view pornography, strippers, girly mags, and/or sexually explicit and provocative photos.

that...cannot for the life of them, understand why any woman would be threatened by a photo of a young, perfectly airbrushed female stretched out in 100 sultry and provocative positions.

that...hide their need or desire to view pornography as a means to get turned on.

that...confuse a woman's interpretation of their need or desire to view pornography, girly mags, Internet photos as a means of control and feel suffocated by it.

that...pretend they are not interested in viewing pornography, girly mags or Internet photos...and then eventually begin to sneak around to view it, later on in the relationship.

that...do understand and respect their partners interpretation of his need or desire to view pornography, girly mags and/or Internet photos.

that...do not prioritize their desire or need to view pornography, girly mags and/or Internet Photos above their partner's feelings.

that...do feel they are disrespecting woman when they take part and add to the demand of pornography, girly mag and/or Internet photos.

...I am reaching out to you very intelligent and independent thinkers and would love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
~D~

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