Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Gender Differences....


You and I both know that relationships can be quite challenging as they do not come without their ups and downs given that we are two completely different genders..
What is key in having a successful and enjoyable relationship is that the ups out number the downs.

When dealing with same or opposite gender relationships, each person experiences changes daily due to the challenges of life. In short nothing or no one will ever stay exactly the same.
In a relationship it is also vital to change together...and stay on the course directed toward the same goals.

Men and women were both gifted with distinct personality differences for a reason. The reason clearly being that they fit together like a puzzle... as long as the right pieces are used in the right spots. For some reason, both men and women seem to constantly want to re-cut those pieces and/or try to fit them somewhere else instead of just accepting what is. This is where we run into so many issues, such as... women wanting men to think like women, men wanting women to think like men....ect.

The main key to any successful relationship is simple. It is called 'acceptance'. We must learn to accept rather than expect.

My being female and writing from thoughts that derive from a female mind, I know it seems that I am always picking on the guys or favoring the girls. Not so....in fact I am indirectly trying to get both genders to see the big picture. It is when we are all tangled up in emotions due to matters of the heart...that the picture tends to get pretty small and our vision can become a bit narrow...very narrow in some cases.

Both genders do have their quirks...that is what makes us unique and individual. Without those gender differences we would not be attracted to each other. We simply would not fit!

Lets take a look at some of the quirks that can so drive a partner around the bend.......


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~D~


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48 comments:

askcherlock said...

"The reason clearly being that they fit together like a puzzle..." What a profound thought, D. We need to embrace the the gender differences in thought-processing. But it's not always easy. I still find myself slipping into the 'why don't you get it?' mode. Then I pull back and get it from his perspective. We certainly are wired differently! The great part of embracing the differences you pointed out so well, is that we gain balance in our relationship and in life in general. Great post! Hugs and kudos to you, dear D.

xander said...

great post D :)

msymond888 said...

i love the way you right.. i guess you are right.great post!

lina@happy family said...

I always love to read yours, Dorothy.

THE GUYS said...

We agree that acceptance is the key. But this must come from both sides. If one person accepts the other person's idiosyncrasies but the other person doesn't, this will lead to serious problems and resentment.

But acceptance comes from understanding one another. You've covered a lot of what needs to be understood between the two genders. Guys in general seem to be more clueless about women than women are about men, but both need to try a bit more to figure it out.

The problem is that men try by doing and women try by talking. Once again missing each other.

Oh well, the mystery is what makes us so attracted to one another!!! :)

RE - EntrePOD said...

men and women are like yin and yang. the warm and the cool. it's true that opposites attract to fulfill each-other. sex, well that's another thing all together. great post D

Hugzzz Ms.D

Joemill said...

The world abides by the law of magnetism - there would never be life without the two differing poles. Life would have been dull with two people not exciting each other, so predictable.

Aryo Halim said...

basicly there is no gender in human, but just for get a kids (for next generation) GOD creates man and woman.. I think so!

dhemz said...

pretty well said Ms.D.....love this post..:)

sexylegsandbody said...

I dont think there is a better way for describing a relationship, you have done an excellent job here Dorothy, as usual. It is so true, ppl fall in love with a certain person, and then they want to change that person... so why did they fall in love with that person in the first place if they are not happy with that person and wants to change him or her.
Great post, thanks for sharing with us.
Colin.

Blog Kesuksesan Hidup | Renungan | Motivator | Kata Bijak said...

Great article...

I think I agree with you that the main key to any successful relationship is acceptance...

Thanks for sharing :)

VanillaSeven said...

Your understanding between female and male behavior are always be an inspiration for me. The key "acceptance" is really got me. Thanks Dorothy :)

nice A said...

God created man and woman differently so that their uniqueness makes them interesting for each other. Generally, man is identified as hard and woman is soft; woman loves to talk but man usually doesn't; woman loves to resolve a conflict right away while man wants to cave in. Only by reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray did I get to fully and deeply understand such differences and it helped me with my dealing with various differences with men and, of course, my hubby especially at the early stage of our marriage when there were a lot of issues (surprises!) we needed to address.
Another great post, Ms. D!

-一个一个的部落格寂寞心 said...

Good morning, my dear friend, Thanks 4 the visit, wish you luck and keep smiling for today Dorothy, sorry i put in here, coz your cbox seems not worked again for me hihihihi

nash said...

hmmm.. another eye-opening article.
:D

I also agree with THE GUYS... hehehe women DO love talking and men DO love DOING... hehehe

cheers!

Meryl (proud pinay) said...

"Men and women were both gifted with distinct personality differences for a reason. The reason clearly being that they fit together like a puzzle." Very well said Ms. D. I agree with you. Nice post. ^_^

Ipin said...

thanks 4 info :)

BaliAnjani said...

nice post here...

THE GUYS said...

Always wanted to tell you we love the look of your site!

Very visually appealing!

And of course the content is fabulous as well!

Have a good day.

tim said...

wow, that is fantastic. I strongly believe that man and woman fit to be together and they were meant. its a plan

chris said...

That is a beautiful thought - that we fit together like a puzzle. It's so important for us to respect each other's quirks and personality in order to live harmoniously.

Lady Gaga said...

hope there is no problem anymore with gender

gleenn said...

YOu're very right in there D! Men and women are complete different in nature. Thus, understanding gender differences is vital to a successful relationship. I can attest that reading and educating one's self is necessary and helpful. If I just relied on experience and trial and error process to understand how Adam and Eve work, it must have cost me a lot of mistakes. Thanks to all the relationship books that I've read such as "I love you" and others, i learned what i should and i am working to apply them. It takes a while but it will definitely come through determination.

Aulawi Ahmad said...

The quality article, good for the reference..TQ

THE GUYS said...

We gave you some props today on our site w/link! Along with some of our other blogger friends.

THE GUYS

H. Nizam said...

Hi Dorothy,
A good explanation about the difference of males & females.

Hi! I'm Grace said...

How was your weekend, Dorothy? :)

Ranran said...

thanks for the follow, dorothy! oh, i love your blog already. i'm a fan of women's liberation.

i'll be following you too.

cheeras from manila!

Man Over Board said...

This is a first time run through comment on this post, as the last one was eaten up in cyber space. So no need to type a manuscript to find out it never reaches the publisher.

That being said, you made me smile and laugh at many of the attributes, both male and female. Well thought out post as usual D.

I will second or third the fact that you write as thou we are in a private two way conversation and you do it wonderfully, kudos gurl :-)

Before I say good night, I wanted to let you know I have a little something coming your way manana.

(Hey what can I say, I'm a kid at heart and could never wait until Christmas to hand out my presents.)

Haddock said...

There is some truth in what you said. And frankly speaking successfull mariages are based on the fact that BOTH the partners know this home truth and move ahead.

eden said...

I was not able to finish reading this post the last time i visited because my connection was so slow.
now, i am able to finish reading it and I say that all the women quirks you listed are so true.
it is so important for both partners to understand and accept each other's quirks for a successful relationship. some would find it annoying in a relationship but if you love someone you have to learn to understand and accept everything about him/her.

tim said...

hey ma'am, i am so happy that you had visit my blog.. it is such a great thing for this guy who write his blog, with his heart.. thank you so much!!!

Tina T said...

You put together such a thorough list. I do agree that the key is acceptance, but I think that it takes women more time to move from wanting to change someone to learning to accept them the it does for men.

Women do love to talk, which is why I've made the most progress in my marriage by learning what not to say or what topics are better discussed with my girlfriends.

Gorgeous MUM said...

This is out of topic . . .

Thanks for that wonderful message! It was so nice of you, like always!

I may not say it, but your post really gives me a better perspective about love, relationships, being a woman. You may not know it but a lot can learn a thing or two. Keep it up and looking forward for more enlighting posts!

Thank you once again and more power!

Have a nice day, or probaly still night over there!

D Lo said...

this was a very insightful post. Thanx

Keith said...

Hey there. I always enjoy your insights about things. You definitely seem to make good observations about whatever you are discussing. I hope you're doing well.

Anny said...

Acceptance.. yep.. that's true. Your post is great :) I'll be dropping by more often. thanks Dorothy.

jhonson wijaya said...

great post..thanks :)

momgen said...

Thank you for the inspirational messages to my blogs i appreciate it...TC

Jill said...

First...thank you for the blog visit and the comment. It's appreciated.

Second...I've learned that accepting someone as they are is the key to a good marriage...also blowjobs. I've also learned that men aren't analyzing every aspect of our bodies during lovemaking. They're just happy to be invited to the party! Once a woman can get this into her head, she'll have a much better time and so will he. Enthusiasm is 99% and you can't act enthusiastic if your worried about your cellulite!

Bring Back Pluto said...

Men are actually quite social. In fact, sometimes I think more social than women.

Women love to go out and talk. But men love to go out and grunt, drink beer and watch a game. Or they want to go out and PLAY games.....softball, hockey, football, etc. I think they do this much more than women. So although, it may not look like socializing it is.

Some men like to go out and talk. I like to do to both. Play games, drink beer, grunt, but also have meaningful and interesting conversations with friends. Did I say friends??? I meant buddies!!

Bring Back Pluto
"ONE of THE GUYS"

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deINDIES said...

no matter to be a male or female, the world still wonderful

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A Lil Enchanted said...

Hi Dorothy.... great post as always!

I left you awards over on my blog

A Lil Enchanted,
~LaShan~

Shinade aka Jackie said...

hi D,
please keep flooding my box I love it!!

I have been very very busy with my new class which began last Wednesday.

It is quite extensive and will require many hours of practice and also days for doing photo shoots.

So I am going to have to break for the winter and get things rolling.

I simply have to learn the ins and outs and get on the ball and I can;t do that and run a blog all winter.

As for your ABC question,if you mean Amazon, yes I am an affiliate!

Have a great Sunday!!
Hugs,
Jackie

shydub said...

Great post Dorothy, you are absolutely right. Acceptance is really the key of good relationships. thanks for sharing this.have a nice day.

Dorothy said...

Dorothy how can such a simple word have so much meaning...wow..

I love it acceptance, I shall share and use this opinion...

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com