Tuesday, January 18, 2011

What is Love????

'I cannot exist without you. I am forgetful of everything but seeing you again. My life seems to stop there, I see no further. You have absorb'd me. I have a sensation at the present moment as though I were dissolving. 
I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for religion... I have shudder'd at it... I shudder no more. I could be martyr'd for my religion: Love is my religion. I could die for that. I could die for you.
 My creed is love, and you are its only tenet. You have ravish'd me away by a power I cannot resist."
 - letter written by John Keats
When I ran across the letter above...I could not resist putting it into a post. So many people ask about and search for the true understanding of love. I could easily write a list of what love is and what love is not....but I am sure you all can do that just as easily. In a few select words we know that love can be described as, trust, respect , belief, commitment ect. As I said, 'words'. But, how do we know when we are in love, have fallen in love, can actually feel love?  What is Love?
Does love begin with first impressions such as...lust,  intellect,  physical appearance, or is it actually blinded by those first impressions, hence the courtship facades. Those are indeed the real mysteries unsolved to many when we allow ourselves to enter into the world of relationships.

The small note above delivers to me, so many answers to those questions we so desperately seek an understanding to. Love is lust, love is eternity, love is life, love is a welcomed sacrifice of sorts, love is all consuming, love is demanding of commitment, love is unpredictable, love is all powerful, but most of all, love is a connection between two people that no other can sever~

Many of us gamble in the game of love, a fact that I have written about so very many times.  Entering into a relationship is a huge risk to the safety of ones heart, mind, and comfort zone. So why do we continue to challenge that risk without really knowing/understanding, the mystery of...' what is love?'
How many of us actually have ever felt what John Keats has shared with us?
How many of us think the one we choose is right for us because we want them to be?
How many of us choose a partner because of  appearances, success, convenience, or controllability?
How many of us actually choose someone because it feels right , it feels good, it feels worthy, it feels like nothing we have ever experienced before?
How many of us avoid everything about it, out of fear of the unknown?
How many times have you, yourself or a friend chosen a person for all the wrong reasons, thinking that is what love is?
Why do we not acknowledge those factors when we know in no uncertain terms just how damaging relationship failures are to our very own wellbeing?

Well, if you have read and understood what 'Keats' wrote above, then you will know the answer to, 'What is Love?' We do it because the risk is worth the all consuming feelings that love delivers even if only for a short period of time which in some cases, does in fact deliver for a very long time.
Have you ever stopped and really thought about why you love that someone in your life and how their presence and/or absence means to your happiness?
These thoughts are essential to your not taking your relationship for granted and at the same time staying in-tune with what may or may not be changing between the two of you. Make awareness a second nature where your relationship is concerned and you will never be blindsided by the unknown~

 Simply put, just another answer to 'What Is Love?''

'Love is like war.....
 Easy to begin but hard to end'



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