Monday, June 30, 2008

Teen Pregnancies!

Gloucester Teens Had Pact To Get Pregnant......

GLOUCESTER (WBZ) ― There's a stunning twist to the sudden rise in teen pregnancies at Gloucester High School. 17 students there are expecting and, according to a published report, most of them became that way on purpose.

Time Magazine is reporting that nearly half of the girls confessed to making a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. None of the girls is older than 16.
Principal Joseph Sullivan said that wasn't all that was shocking.
"We found out one of the fathers is a 24-year-old homeless guy," he told Time.
Last month, two top officials at the high school's health center resigned in a fight over contraceptives distribution.
Medical Director Dr. Brian Orr and chief nurse practitioner Kim Daly support confidentially giving contraceptives to students. They were outraged about resistance from Addison Gilbert Hospital, which administers the state public health grant that funds the school clinic.
Normally, the school has about four pregnancies per school year.
According to Time, school officials started looking into the spike in pregnancies after an unusual number of girls came to the school clinic for pregnancy tests. Some came by several times.
"Some girls seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were," Sullivan told the magazine.
The pregnant girls and their parents turned down requests to be interviewed.
A recent graduate who had a baby during her freshman year told Time she knows why the girls wanted to get pregnant.

"They're so excited to finally have someone to love them unconditionally," Amanda Ireland, 18, said. "I try to explain it's hard to feel loved when an infant is screaming to be fed at 3 a.m."

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Licenses are mandatory to hunt for animals and fish...but anyone can bring an innocent child to this earth without any question.

For heaven cannot even adopt a pet these days without proper identification and license.

The article above just adds to my concerns and my utter shame of what is happening out there to our young people. Where does this need to find unconditional love come from?

Is it from their upbringing, their family dynamics....unless we live with these girls, will we ever know exactly what has caused this void inside of them.

It is true that any new cool idea does spread like wild fire and a good majority of those people tend to be followers. "They know not, what they are doing" and have no real reason for their actions. But there is an original person with a definite reason for starting this type of trend. Maybe even many.

What is going to happen to these young children when the mother has no idea how to care and nurture for this child brought into this world to be her companion? That is exactly what it is all about.

An innocent child, brought to this world for all the wrong reasons with a mind that will be twisted and controlled to be the mother's own little puppet or companion.

This is not the answer in finding an unconditional love. If a person does not love themselves inside unconditionally, they will never have the freedom to be loved by or to love anyone else unconditionally .

The only reason these girls are doing this is because they can! I have to say that I deem this as a form of child abuse.

This should be outlawed and a new set of rules should be written up to protect unborn children.
We fight abortion every step of the way, but we turn a blind eye to these under aged girls as they determine that they are for to be a parent for the reasons of needing an unconditional love companion.

I know that some of you reading this will shake your heads and question, "who am I to make such a statement?"

I am a person that cares enough to try to reach out and make a difference in this world before it is totally corrupt. I have also raised 4 children of my own and I can tell you from experience that the mother in most cases is the one responsible for that child. The fathers will not stay at home while the mother goes out dancing or partying with their girlfriends. Nor will they relish in the idea of getting up with a sick child that cries for hours and hours. Most of the families do not want to be responsible for that child either, they have their own lives to live.

Are there not already enough babies left behind or dumped in garbage dumpsters like they are nothing more than a litter of unwanted kittens?

Are there not enough children in orphanages and foster care because the mother could not care for her child that she wanted so badly to fill that void of unconditional love?

How many grandmothers are out there today that have already raised their own children and are now becoming custodial parents of their grandchildren due to the inability of the mother or father responsibility?

I have spent time looking at video's in regards to supporting teen moms...I have talked to many young mothers to be, and I am not so closed minded that I do not commend those young mothers that are responsible and have been taught how to be a committed parent or partner. I am the first person to be amazed and to give compliment on what a young person can do and can carry through.

The saying, "Babies having Babies", definitely does send a message, unfortunately the young girls do not want to hear it and that is another sign of immaturity.

I too was very young when I had my first child and I too was the one that stayed at home night after night and day after day because I was raised in a home that strongly catered to this saying, "You made your bed, you lay in it". My child's father was too young and too concerned with his needs and his socializing to understand his role as a parent at that age.

It is not that I am against young mothers at all, it is the reason for the pregnancies that are becoming a trendy thing, so to speak. Which is what is very scary.

If it is unconditional love that these girls are looking for, then maybe our education system should be looking into some type of self-esteem courses that are mandatory right from grade school and up.

I will continue expressing my concerns in regards to these young mothers that consider having a baby an answer to their inner emptiness.

Today I have shared enough thoughts and I hope that even one young girl will be reached by my message here today.

Please understand that there are many reasons to have a child and there are many to not have a child!

Live your life as it is meant to be lived!

Enjoy your youth as it will not return a second time!



Diane said...

There are high schools here in Nevada where the same thing happens. It's a very scary reality these girls are living in, one they have no idea of the full implications.

If anyone is contemplating doing something like this remember it is not YOUR life that hangs in the balance, but that of the as yet unborn. Think of them, not yourself. There is real wisdom, real love.

This was very upsetting to read :(

DorothyL said...
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DorothyL said...

Hello Diane
I is not only upsetting it is a reality nightmare. Our world is turning upside down and what we grew up learning as morals and priorities has taken on a whole new meaning to the next generation.
These innocent children that are being brought to life for reasons as selfish as one needing unconditional love is inconceivable and will begin a generation of even more impersonal & detached human beings.It is very hard to stand by and witness what we deem as obvious in our world self-destructing!
So we take our own little corners of our world and try very hard to secure them and hope that just maybe something from our culture will pass on and just maybe begin to change what has already began a meaning to an end of what we knew as civilization!
Keep moving forward!

Pam Hoffman said...

What a strange thing for packs of teen girls to decide to do this!

Oh, there is unconditional love in a mother/child relationship alright. I can tell you, having had my daughter at 21 and raised her mostly alone for almost 20 years, that the unconditional love goes the other way! YOU will have to give up EVERYTHING to have that baby ladies!

When I had my daughter, I remember thinking to myself 'well, my contribution to society has been made' .Though I wasn't planning this new child, I did my duty to the best of my ability.

I had no money, no education, no decent job and I didn't own a home at that age. I had very little to offer my baby girl.

I sure scared the heck out of her though! She knows how hard it is to be a single parent before you are ready in no uncertain terms!

I'm pretty sure that she will not have a baby without planning things and I'm hoping she has a decent partner. Her dad was abusive so we were better off on our own.

I like a poster I've seen at the malls. It's a young woman with a baby and says something about 'the kind of pager' a baby would be(wow, that must be old now).

We certainly need to protect these children wanting children. I don't have all the answers. I know what I did for my daughter worked. She is now 25 and planning out how she will be a mom. I'm so proud. I sacrificed a lot for that though. She has turned out very well so I did ok after all. It's a counseling job after awhile and thankfully, I was capable of getting thru to her in the long run.

We all do what we can when we can I think. Some of us don't even know the problem is out there so thank you for revealing it on your post!

Pam Hoffman

Self-esteem Blog for Women said...

Hey Pam
hank you so much for your thoughts. I am with you every step of that thought.
My daughter is 23 and is still educating herself to be a nurse. Her thoughts about having a baby are far away. She too had the vision early in life as to how hard it is for a mother to have to support 4 children. The idea that these girls are coming up with only tells me that there is definitely something missing in their earlier education. As I mentioned in my is usually one genuine idealist and the rest follow, not even really knowing hwy which is even scarier.
Life as we knew it has certainly become foreign to us now. All we can hope for is that enough of us have educated our children to carry on with some good old fashioned morals. Again thank you for taking the time to comment on my article.
Have a very positive day!